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Category: V1. Self-Awareness

Why Are We So Stubborn to Learn?

Teachability is the balance between confidence and humility—a superpower most people ignore. Smart people get proud, but wise people stay open. It’s not about knowing everything, but about having the courage to keep learning when others stop. The world won’t slow down. Stay teachable, or get left behind.

The Paradox of Being Forced vs. Freedom

The world tells us happiness comes from endless choices. But purpose doesn’t come from having all the options—it comes from choosing the right one. The next time you feel forced into something, pause. Instead of resisting, ask: ‘Could this be shaping me into something greater?’

What Drives Your Heartbeat?

What if your weakest area held your greatest lesson? I thought I was doing enough—working hard, providing, being present. But effort alone doesn’t build love. My unborn daughter’s heartbeat reminded me: She will love how I love. What’s your heartbeat truly pushing you toward? Because mine changed everything.

Self-Awareness: The First “S”

Self-awareness is the foundation of everything. Without it, teachability stalls. Attitude is reactive. Relationships suffer. Significance fades. The moment you truly see yourself—your patterns, reactions, and values—you begin to shape not just your own future, but the future of those you love.

The STARS That Guide Us

A lighthouse does not move toward lost ships; it stands firm, shining so that others can find their way. A true leader does not just accumulate success; they illuminate the path for others.

Guard Your Heart

A broken camera can no longer capture memories, but a guarded heart can continue creating them. I chose peace over resentment, relationships over grudges, and faith over frustration. I let go—not because he deserves it, but because some battles aren’t worth fighting, especially against people who no longer matter.

Embracing LOH Legacy: Multigenerational Vision

The LOH Legacy embodies a multigenerational vision rooted in faith, Overflowing Love, and Honouring God. With His grace and mercy, it unites family members beyond personal interests, helping us overcome past hurts, strengthen bonds, and preserve a cherished heritage for 14 generations—serving as an inspiration for society to build lasting legacies.

Golden Rules

Life, marriage, and leadership thrive when rooted in key golden rules: love authentically, lead yourself first, focus on the root rather than results, and own your mistakes. Like an aquaponics system, nurturing the foundation leads to abundant harvests, blessing families and communities—just as five loaves and two fish fed many.

Mortality

Today, my son Eann asked, ‘Why do humans need to die?’ This profound question sparked reflections on life, death, and faith. I explained how our body, soul, and spirit differ, and shared the belief in eternal life. It reminded me to embrace life’s purpose and the precious moments we’re given.

Miracles

Life’s greatest blessing is its uncertainty. Living mindfully means appreciating moments between our first and last breaths. Like a candle’s flame, each moment is fleeting but powerful enough to light up others. By embracing life as a series of miracles, we find joy in every connection, moment, and breath.

Building LOH Legacy

Building a family legacy is about creating a future that reflects shared values, love, and purpose. By focusing on roots, relationships, and strategy, families can stay united and thrive across generations. Faith, traditions, and storytelling serve as anchors, fostering connection, healing wounds, and inspiring the next generation to carry forward.

Farewell, Alicia!

From overcoming rejection to finding strength, she turned her struggles into inspiration for others. Like the Starfish Parable, even one life saved creates lasting change. Because when you save one, you remind the world that every life matters.

Confinement Center for our 4th Child

Choosing a confinement center reminded me of parenting and education—where passion must meet professionalism. Like tending a flame, nurturing requires care, protection, and commitment. At Stellar, we aim to be a beacon of hope, where children’s dreams flourish, guided by purpose, excellence, and the trust of every parent.

Leadership, Influence, and the 24-Hour Constraint

Leadership is influence, and growth happens not by addition but by multiplication. Stellar’s journey shows that thriving within constraints comes from empowering leaders, building trust, and maximizing impact. Time is fixed, but priorities can shift. Embrace constraints as a catalyst for growth and multiply your team’s potential through collaboration.

Transforming 24 Hours into 36

Instead of wishing for more time, seek the wisdom to use 24 hours as if they were 36—maximizing every moment with purpose.

Viewing Feedback as a Gift

Success is about more than just achieving goals. It’s about choosing purpose over profit, valuing authenticity over appearance, and viewing feedback as a gift.

Bill – Leadership Beyond the Book

Legacy isn’t what you leave behind; it’s what you set in motion.

Converting Another Dreamer into Potential Educator

We may not control every event, but we can control how we navigate these uncertainties—with hope, resilience, and purpose.

Stellar’s Journey and a Greater Malaysia

As long as we believe in what we’re doing, as long as we carry integrity in our actions, we can contribute to a future that’s brighter, not just for us but for generations to come. This is what true fulfillment looks like: knowing we stood by our principles and showed that there’s always a way forward when we believe in doing the right thing.

Life Beyond Life

If today were my last day, how would I feel about the legacy I’ve created? As long as my impact endures, a part of me will continue to live. I measure my life not by years, but by the influence I leave on others. That influence spreads from the people I directly impact to those they go on to affect, creating a ripple effect that extends far beyond my immediate reach.

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