Unplanned, but Meaningful
I think I’m addicted to walking around the park.
Right now, it’s 11:23 PM, and I just left my house, where an unexpected gathering happened. Completely unplanned. But it was nice.
This got me thinking—how do we create spaces for deep, meaningful conversations, even when they are not planned?
Most Life Groups follow a fixed structure—dinner, fellowship, worship, sermon discussion, prayer. Everything is well-organized. But what if we planned to be unplanned?
What if we made our homes and lives more open—welcoming people at any time, without needing a formal invitation?
This means thinking ahead:
- Do we always have enough food in the fridge? So when people drop by, we can host them without stress.
- Do we have ways to spark real conversations? Like the John 10:10 Life Card, where people pick a topic and share from their hearts. This card covers 10 key areas of life, and the questions are chosen randomly. It helps people open up about deeper things.
This isn’t about complicated planning. It’s about being ready to be available.
I can do this because I’ve spent years being mentored, serving, and learning. It has completely changed my perspective. And now, I want to pass it on.
What Makes a Home?
Tonight, someone asked me:
“What does ‘home’ mean to you? And how do you create a home?”
I reflected on this.
Level 1: A Safe Space
A home isn’t just about providing food, shelter, and comfort. It’s about creating a safe space where people feel free to be themselves.
For example, my son Aden lied about taking our dog Loki out for a walk.
Why?
Because he wasn’t secure enough to tell the truth.
If a child fears punishment more than they value honesty, they will learn to hide things instead of being open. They will avoid, find excuses, or shut down completely.
A home doesn’t have to be perfect—it can be small, messy, or simple. But if it’s a place where people feel safe, loved, and accepted, that’s what truly matters.
Level 2: A Home That Overflows
Once our home is strong at the core, we can extend it outward.
Some people come from broken families—they have never seen a home filled with love.
Our home can be an example—not a perfect family, but a real one. A family that faces struggles together, supports each other, and chooses love despite the hard days.
Some people don’t need advice. They just need to see what love looks like in daily life.
A home that gives, receives even more in return.
How We See Money, and What It Really Means
Tonight, we also had an interesting discussion about financial success.
My view on money is simple: It’s not something to fear.
Years ago, I had to decide whether to take over my parents’ business. They told me:
“If you don’t take over, you’ll be poor.”
I asked myself:
“Am I okay with being poor?”
And I realised—yes, I was.
That day, I chose not to let money control my decisions.
Instead, I would focus on adding value to people’s lives.
That’s how I live my life today.
And in the long run, this mindset will shape Stellar Education Group too.
Final Thoughts: A Full Day, A Full Heart
Today was meaningful. From morning till now, it has been a day full of people, lessons, and reflections.
- Breakfast with Uncle Sam, someone I admire.
- A photo shoot.
- A meeting with bank and Professor Richard—the Asian version of Peter Drucker.
- My first-ever Pilates class.
- And finally, a home full of guests, laughter, and meaningful conversations.
And now, as I walk under the night sky, I feel tired but fulfilled.
I know one thing—tonight, I will sleep well.
Key Takeaways
- Be ready to be available. Life’s best moments are often unplanned.
- A home is more than comfort—it’s a safe space.
- Focus on progress, not perfection. Celebrate growth, even when it’s slow.
- Money should not control us. Instead, focus on impact.
- Love isn’t about words. It’s about what people do.
- What will you choose to build—a house or a home?
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